Almond mom coworkers turn every lunch break into passive-aggressive critique session with constant food shaming, leaving a young professional uncomfortable and frustrated: ‘One coworker straight-up said, “I just cringe when I watch you eat”’

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  • "What do I do about food shaming at work?"

    "I'm tempted to go to HR, but I don't want them to figure out it was me"
  • I (23M) recently got my Bachelor's degree and started working in Speech Pathology at a public school while preparing for my Master's. Most of my coworkers are in their 40s or older, and we usually eat lunch together in the teacher's lounge.
  • A lot of them are classic Almond Moms—they'll eat veggies and hummus and call it a meal. Meanwhile, I have a fast metabolism and don't always eat
  • the healthiest, but I'm still pretty skinny. Lately, I've been bringing sugary cereals as a dessert, and today, I brought a toaster strudel since they were on sale.
  • When I first started bringing in cereal, they would joke about it— laughing at my Captain Crunch, for example. It was a little uncomfortable, but I brushed it off. One coworker in particular
  • tends to stare at me when I eat something unhealthy, and when I brought in a (admittedly large) portion of cereal a few weeks ago, she said, "Wow, that's a lot." Another time, someone commented that my food was "so beige".
  • They're all generally nice, but when it comes to food, their inner Almond Mom comes out. I've mostly just laughed it off and joked about it on my private story, because I'm not insecure about my weight, so I didn't really care.
  • But today, when I was eating my toaster strudel, one coworker straight-up said, "I just cringe when I watch you eat." I laughed it off, but now I'm starting to feel genuinely uncomfortable.
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  • At this point, I'm tempted to go to HR, but I don't want them to figure out it was me. Once again, they're all nice but their comments are starting to really get to me. What should I do?
  • thrace75 Shut that sh down fast. "I've always been told it's ride to comment on other people's food." pointed stare
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  • No-Win-2741 I would just respond back with giving them a look and say something like what a weird thing to say, policing what someone else is eating.
  • Dragon_Within Backhand comments: "Its fine, I don't have to watch what I eat" "No worries, my metabolism hasn't started to slow down yet"
  • "I don't have any dietary restrictions" "I guess my lifestyle just naturally burns off all these calories and sugar"
  • Getting meaner: "Are you doing a penance for something? That is the most bland meal I've ever seen"
  • "Is that for a diet? Looks like it might be working" "Looks like you brought your rabbits food to work instead of your lunch again"
  • "I hope you don't make your kids eat like that, they probably think they're permanently in trouble"
  • Blunt: "What I eat isn't your concern, please keep your comments to yourself" "This is my personal time, can you please not interrupt me during my meal?"
  • "I don't have to regulate my dietary intake, your needs and opinions on food are not mine."
  • aliencreative Stop laughing when it isn't funny. That's my first suggestion. Just stare blankly back until you can think of something to say. Do not make them comfortable thinking they can poke at you.
  • ZuluKonoZulu Respond with something like, "When I'm your age I'll probably have to be more careful."
  • MapleSyrup YYC What if, in response to every single comment, you replied 'I know, right?' That's a big portion. I cringe when I see what you eat You're going to ruin your health, get fat, blah blah blah.
  • Grin like you don't have a care in the world and say i know, right? It will teach them you don't care and maybe they'll shut up about your food. They are super ride!
  • HappySummerBreeze "What a weird thing to say out loud Sandra, that's an inside thought" (said tapping your head) "You're strangely obsessed with my food Jenny"
  • If that doesn't stop the comments, then ramp it up. "Wow that's so passive aggressive and intrusive of you Debra, I don't remember asking for your judgement of my personal diet, so why don't you keep it professional" (this is more nuclear so not a first volley)
  • Beautiful Release3 The teacher's lounge is notoriously toxic and it's taught to avoid it or be wary when still in school. I would say that, "so you're the reason why they tell undergrads to avoid the teacher's lounge."
  • Lincoln Daddy4u "I teach my preschooler that it's ride to make someone feel bad about their food. It's funny that kids figure it out before the adults do"
  • Cable_Special Yeah, don't go to HR. You'll create animosity and resentment. And you'll really be the odd man out.
  • I eat carnivore and had someone make an inane comment, similar to your co-worker. I didn't respond. I looked at them silently for a good 8-10 seconds (felt like 3 minutes) and calmly asked with a neutral face,
  • "Was that meant to be a joke?" They stammered a bit but finally said, "Yeah. I was just joking." I told him, "Be funnier." And then went back to eating.
  • The point here is I don't give a flying flip about people's opinions regarding what I eat. If people want to carry on about what I eat, I'll get up and move. Or eat somewhere else.
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